Are you always tired, feeling like you are busy all the time, but at the end of the day feel like you got nothing done?
Do you see all of the “motivated” moms on social media and wonder “why not me?”
First of all, everyone posts their best on social media. Think about what you post out of your day, then think about all they other not so glamorous (or humorous) things that happen.
Don’t compare your everyday mess to other moms best!
Every mom has chores undone.
Every mom’s kids whine.
No mom can keep up with all the laundry and dishes all the time, or if she can she lets something else go.
That doesn’t mean throw your hands in the air you are destined to stay in this rut forever and there's nothing you can do about it.
Just stop waiting for “motivation” to strike and do something about it!
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What you need to do is take a real look at your priorities and ask yourself if what you are doing everyday is in line with what you want. Obviously there are things you have to do and you can’t do everything you want to do but you can do what you need with a little planning.
“You can't always get what you want, but if you try sometime you find, you get what you need”
-The Rolling Stones
As cliche as it sounds, you have to take some time to write it down make the time to get it done.
Having your thoughts organized with save you one energy.
Let me ask you this: how many times a day do you start one thing, only to start another, then another before finishing? It’s exhausting right? What if with just a little planning you can start finishing things?
Here are my 3 steps and my little trick to cut down on my all-over-the-place-ness: Prioritize (set goals), Plan, Routine. This is the same process I use with all my clients to create their programs and form new healthy habits, but it works with everyday life too!
First start with your goals for the week. Pick 3-5 of your overarching goals. Then, using that as your guide, create a prioritized to do list for the week. I use an A,B,C method. The A items are things that must get done (these should be in line with your goals for the week). The B items are things the really should get done but if they don’t it's ok. Finally, the C items are like bonuses, if you get to them great, if not, no worries. Make sure you start with you main goals for the week, let that guide you as to what you put on your A list.
Start scheduling your to do list into your days. Start with the A list, make sure that have prominent placement; then B and C.
Finally fill in your days with all the other little tasks.
There are two parts to making it a routine.
Do one thing at a time. Highlight what you are working on now and don’t move on to another task until you are done. Cross it out then highlight the next. This is the key to cut down on your all-over-the-place-ness. Do one thing at a time. Highlighting help, when you find yourself straying and saying “wait, what was I doing?” You will have it highlighted right there in front of you!
Reflect. At the end of the week, go back and look at you prioritized to do list. Did you get all your A items done? B? C? If no, especially for your A list, either you need to take a hard look at how you will fit them in next week OR recognize that these might not be your priorities after all. Either you actions are not in line with your goals or your goals aren’t important enough to you. This is where you look to make the habit. This is where you look to create the routine. This takes time, but it’s necessary work when it comes to making time for what you truly want!
Keep in mind, if you are trying to start healthy habits those should be some of your priorities. Schedule time to workout and keep track of other healthy habits.
That brings me to a little gift I have for you. I put all of this on one page for me to use as a weekly planner AND I want to share it with you! *click on the image to download*
The habits box on this planner is my new favorite. Each day you fill in the box next to the habit you are trying to make/keep, if get it done. At the end of the week you will have a clear picture of what habits you are rocking and what habits may need a little more attention. Note: you don’t have to workout every day (in fact I don’t recommend it). Just look at it in the context of your goals. For example, if your goal was to workout 3 days, you should have 3 boxes filled in.
Join StrongMom Tribe, I will post this printable monthly (with the new month calendar on top), as a gentle reminder to keep up this process. We can all hold each other accountable!
Remember, all the “motivated” people you see on social media don’t have anyting you can’t have. They have goals, a plan, and a routine. You can have it too! Stop waiting for that damn motivation to strike.