I had this crazy “aha moment” the other day that I really need to share with you related to our conversation about getting stuck in the “I’ll start tomorrow” or “I’ll start next week” cycle. You stay stuck because you don’t value the promises you make to yourself.
The other day, I was reading Girl Wash Your Face by Rachel Hollis. So far I LOVE it but i’m only about a third of the way through. If it finishes as amazing as it’s started out, I’ll definitely be recommending it to my Strong Mom Tribe to read!
She starts the book out with the lies we women tell ourselves. All of them were good… well bad (you know what I mean). Her fresh (and so freaking true) perspective on the “I’ll start tomorrow” lie we’ve talked already about stopped me in my tracks.
Let me back up a bit to frame this aha moment for you...
How many times have you told yourself I’ll start tomorrow, I’ll start next week, when I finish X I’m going to do this thing for me?
How many times have you broken that promise? You probably had a good excuse - I’m too tired, I got too busy with something else, I ended up doing X,Y,Z other important things instead…
To be 100% clear, I’m not saying that your reasons/excuses are invalid… but hope I can convince you that they are not worth continually breaking promises to yourself.
To prove the point, let’s look at it another way.
What if you made a coffee date or dinner plans with your best friend and cancelled?
What if you agreed to help your friend with something she really needed and bailed at the last minute?
What if you did this on the regular?
You wouldn’t right? Not if you wanted to keep that friend around and have them trust you.
So why do we go out of our way to keep promises with others but the first person we break a promise to is ourselves?
YOU should not be the first person you break a promise too!
This quote from the book was the MAJOR aha moment for me (It had me talking to myself in the car as we drove along - obv. I was listening to it on audible):
“If you constantly make and break promises to yourself you aren’t really making any promises at all, you’re just talking”
THIS is how we get stuck! We lose trust in ourselves.
It ends now!
The next promise you make to yourself, make it one that you KNOW you can keep and do everything in your power to keep it. Your integrity and trust in yourself are on the line.
Protect the promises you make to yourself.